Friendships

There’s something quite endearing about a good friendship. Friends make up the people in our lives. They are a source of companionship. They bring you together. They are the people you put your trust in. They are your confidants. They also often represent the type of person you are. They play a significant role in your behavior. For me, a good friend can be like second family to you. Over the years, I have noticed a pattern in my friendships. I tend to be the social floater. When your young, people tend to want to box you up in cliques (especially in middle school and high school). I have never been apart of one clique. For starters, I never want to be tied down to one group of people. In fact, all my life I have been involved with multiple groups of people. I try to be every ones friend. Recently, as I moved to a new school I have found it quite difficult to make friends. Thus, I still hang out with the people that I know. However, one of my New Year’s resolutions is to make more new friends. I’m one of those people who make a lot of acquaintances and casual friends. Unfortunately, I find it hard to make a lot of close friends. Despite my lack of close friends, I have observed throughout my life that it is better to have a few close friends than a lot of poor quality friends. Friends come and go but having a close knit group of people is something beneficial to everyone. I’ll leave with this. What are some of the ways in which you can make new friends? Feel free  to comment.

Sincerely,

Abisola

 

 

All About the Hair

Hair is something that has defined communities (particularly the black community) for a long time. As an African American women I can only speak for the black community. In black communities hair is a significant aspect of black culture. It plays a critical role in developing character especially the barber shop and beauty shop culture. As an African American woman I have done a wide variety of hairstyles that go along with my texture. I’ve even jumped on the bandwagon and gone natural. Going natural was such an emotional journey for me. In a Eurocentric society beauty standards tend to revolve around predominantly white standards of beauty. If your hair is not sleek and straight, people tend to perceive you differently. Going natural allowed me to embrace my Afrocentric roots. It taught me to love my hair despite the uniqueness in texture.  Plus, it made my hair a lot healthier. In the past, I have dabbled my hair into everything from weaves, to braids, to crochet, to my natural kinky  curls. Whatever your hair path is it is an act of self expression. Be who you are and let own your doo.

BODY IMAGE

Body image is a sensitive topic that pertains to both men and women. Since I am a women, I’m going to discuss the ways in which body image affects women. We come in all different shapes and sizes and individual body types. Whether your thin or curvy body image is your perception of yourself. Like many women, I sometimes struggle with body image and body confidence. I have a curvy but muscular frame and I’ve struggled with my weight. Recently, the topic of body image occurred to me as I was clothes shopping. It seemed like none of the clothes were fitting me. I was definitely a couple sizes larger. This fact weighed on me like an ominous load. Its so silly how a certain number whether its on the scale or in a dress size can impact your self perception. For some reason, a larger number  often equates to a lower self esteem. I use to be an incessant scale hopper checking my weight multiple times a day. It was unhealthy. I’ve never had an eating disorder but I have done some pretty foolish gimmicks to get me to reduce my weight. However, over the years I have learned to accept my body for what it is. Although, I still struggle sometimes with my body image I have learned that what I have is beautiful. I know it sounds cliche but a healthy body is a beautiful body. Currently, I am working on losing weight not to fit into a particular size but to be healthier overall. It so sad how our society focuses so hard on the superficial aspects of beauty. We tend to drift toward supermodel thin or a certain type of curvy to define what is beautiful. My advice for any one struggling with body image issues is to embrace what and who you are including your flaws. My other piece of advice is to work on making your body healthy. Fit is the new sexy.

Thanks for listening ,

Abisola

New Year’s Resolutions

As the Christmas season ends and the new year approaches the infamous task of creating New Year’s resolutions appears. There’s just something about the new year that brings forth a sense of rejuvination and rebirth. It’s our chance to detox ourselves physically and emotionally. Whether its trying to loose weight, better your relationships, or better yourself overall the new year is the quintessential time for that. It’s hard not to get into the hype of it all. Most importantly, its often difficult to maintain these resolutions. That’s why its critical to plan ahead and make realistic goals for the new year. One of my personal resolutions is to lose some weight. Declaring my goals makes me feel more accountable. I will probably share my progress as time go on. That is why the days before the New Year are so important to make an action plan that will lead you to your goals. Whatever your New Year’s resolutions are make sure that you understand that you don’t have to wait for New Years to change your life. Every day is a new opportunity to make a difference in your life.

Christmas Eve

In all my years of life I’ve experienced several Christmas Eves. But none seem to pull my heart strings as much as this one. I spent my Christmas Eve at church at a candle light service. It made me remember and embrace the true meaning of Christmas with Jesus as the light that was brought to this world. This Christmas season keep Jesus as the true reason for the season.

My Go To Song

Music plays such a significant role in my life. It impacts my emotions. It impacts my soul. Without music life would be bland. Recently, I tend to drift from listening to the top 40s to some more old school music. One of my favorite artists to listen to is the brilliant Lauryn Hill. I absolutely adore her. I always said if they made a Lauryn Hill biopic I would definitely want to play her. So, one of her less well known songs that I absolutely love is called Ex-Factor. Its an emotional ballad about how she can’t seem to get reciprocity when it comes to love. I’ve definitely been there and I’m sure several others have too. The combination of her soulful voice and the intoxicating melody just gets me every time. I highly recommend listening to it. You will be hooked.

 

 

Welcome To My World

Hello,

My name is Abisola Adeyemo. Welcome to my world. I am just your average 17 year old girl getting through life. However, I have many passions that I would like to share with the world. Some of these include music, fashion, food, pop culture, and health and fitness. I have a niche for people and hope that I can express myself accordingly. I am new to this blogging business and hope to get better with time. This blog is open to the public and I hope that I can get feedback from other people. I am so thrilled to share my ideas and experiences with the world.

Sincerely,

Abisola