21st Century Woman

As the years go on and I embark on my voyage to womanhood, I can’t help but think of what it means for me to be a woman in these modern times. Times have changed significantly from the stereotypical ideals for women. Woman are more driven and more independent then ever. In fact, we just might potentially have a female president in the United States. That means so much to me. I have always been taught to be indepent. I learned from a young age to never depend on a man as a source of happiness and financial stability. This is most likely due to the fact that I was raised by a single mother. I saw the dedication and hard work that my mother did in order to provide for my sister and I. My father was never an entity that NEEDED to be there. We were good on our own. Now, I plan on getting married and staying married. I would never want to be a single mother. Despite this, I never want to feel like I need a husband to meet my financial needs. I’ve already thought about splitting the financial responsibilities with my significant other.(I still don’t even have a significant other) My mother always said that a woman needs  her own money. So I am most likely going to have my own personal account along with our joint account. Despite the financial obligations, being a women in the 21st century means more than making your own money. Its all about freedom. We can no longer be put in stagnant boxes. Women are entering work forces that are traditionally male oriented. For my male viewers I would love to hear feed back on what it means to you to see women in these roles. Some men are highly intimidated by a strong woman. Those are the type of men that I definitely would not want to be in a relationship with. A real man or a man that I would want to be with is able to handle a strong woman. The 21st century woman is fearless. We can speak our minds. Our sole purpose is not only to bear and raise children. Although that is a remarkable job, we were destined to fulfill our dreams. Where would Barack Obama be without Michelle? I love the quote that states that “for every successful man,there is a strong woman backing him up”. That isn’t the quote verbatem, however you get the drift. Women play so many roles and are still underappreciated. I think it is incredibly unfair that in the work place today, women still make less than men in some jobs. That is absolutely ridiculous. That is why I am a self-proclaimed feminist. Feminism is not about picketing for every little “injustice”. Feminism is simply the belief of equality  in all areas for men and women. I believe that both men and women should be feminist. There is no need for major social and economic discrepancies for men and women. Let’s unite and make an effort for change. So how can you advocate change? Basically change is administered when advocacy begins. Social media is a wonderful forum. Just posting an article about a social feminist injustice or making a status or twitter post with a catchy hashtag can do the trick. The more people know about it, the more change that can occur. The 21st century women is a go getter. We know what we want and make an effort to achieve it. Its all about taking initiative. We know longer have to fill a subservient, ultra-submissive role any more. These days alot of women are the breadwinners of the family. There’s no shame in that game. As 21st century women, we also need to empower each other. That means no slut-shaming, body-shaming,  or making other women feel inferior. Change can only occur when we work together. Well that’s all I have for today. I hope you enjoyed today’s post.

Thanks for reading,

Abisola