#Goals

If you’ve been on social media, I’m sure you’ve seen this hashtag numerous times before #Goals. This particularly hashtag goes on anything from food  to relationships. I have thought about doing this topic for a long time. However, it did not really occur to me until I watched one of my favorite youtubers, Patricia Bright do a video on relationship goals. The gist of the video is why relationships should not be goals. I will expand on that. Relationships are different for everyone. All that glitters is not gold. What I basically mean by this is that what you see on someone else that might appear fantastic, may not in fact be that spectacular. People are prone to show their best sides. Whether its that couple who is notorious for their cutesy couple-y photos or that girl who is always seems to be on the perfect destination vacation, social media thrives on the superficial. People will only post the best of themselves. That “perfect couple” you see might have an abusive relationship. That “rich kid” may be in a major load of debt. You never really know the depth of what someone is going through based on their social media. Continually, relationships should not be goals if you are single. I have to stop myself on this one. You are your own person. As a single person you should enjoy your time by yourself. Instead of being googly-eyed on another person’s relationship, build yourself up. Being alone is the perfect time to get to know yourself. It is also the quintessential time to become a better you. Don’t waste your time fantasizing on the perfect relationship. It turns out that when you aren’t focused on something to much, it will come forth more naturally. Wait for the right time. Please do not rush into things because you feel compelled to complete your #goals.

So what should be your goals? It is so important to set goals and thrive to make certain accomplishments. I’m kind of a nerd, but as a student my main priority is to succeed academically. My goal is to be the best student I can possibly be. I’ve already accomplished my goal of getting into a good university. I am so blessed to say that I can cross that off my list. Apart from succeeding in my academics, my goal is to be a better person. I know that is extremely cliche. Despite this, being a better person is something that everyone should aspire to be. You should always try to be a better you than you were the day before. I want to grow and excel, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Achieving this goal takes time. No #goal is just achieved without hard work and effort. To reach my goals spiritually, I have to make an effort to read my bible and talk to God. To be honest, I have been slacking in this area. I have not met up with my goals for bible reading. I also felt like I haven’t spent enough time praising God. However, the fact that I’m acknowledging this is the first step in recovering. Emotionally, I am in a good place. I am genuinely happy.  The only thing that I would say is that I am definitely feeling the senioritis. Nonetheless, I  believe that is pretty normal. Physically, I have not reached my goals. I am trying to lose weight. This is an extremely difficult thing to do. People underestimate the difficulty of weight loss. I have realized that whatever my body looks like I will love it. I have learned to appreciate my body for all that it does for me. Goals are essential to life. They help us grow as individuals. Its important to set realistic goals. It is also crucial to set a time frame for your goals. Well that’s all that I have for today. I hope you enjoyed this. Feel  free to comment. Thanks for reading.

Sincerely,

Abisola