Patience is a Virture

Growing up, my mother used to always say the phrase “patience is a virtue”. As a child, I never really understood what that meant. However, as I grew older I started to understand the significance of that statement. Basically, what it means is that patience is a value. It is a skill or an attribute that is positive. Patience can be acquired over the years. It can be very difficult to acquire or easy depending on the individual’s willingness. Nonetheless, when you have patience your whole life will be made easier. I will share with you some quick tips on how to gain patience.

  1. Patience is obtained by making a strict effort. I am a firm believer that nothing in life is granted without hard work and dedication. Thus, with patience, there is always something to work on. You have to be willing to make a change. In order to be patient, one has to get up and plan how you will be more patient. For example, if you are a teacher and you are working with young children, you will definitely have to make an effort to be patient with them. This means that you will be slow to anger, and quick to show love and affection. It also means that you will cooperate with them when things become difficult. To reach this point, takes planning and work ethic.
  2. You can get patience by being proactive. What does it mean to be proactive? The definition of proactive means a person, policy or action,  creating or controlling a situation, by causing something to happen rather than responding to it after it happened. In other words, or synonyms for it would taking charge, enterprising and driven. To be patient you have to take the bold step of taking the high road. You can’t let yourself react to things that happen to you. You have to be prepared to make the first move, even if it is complicated. For example, when some one makes you angry instead of blowing up and going ham on them, take the effort to resolve the situation. This can mean standing up to the person that made you angry. This can also mean being the peace maker. When you are patient, you naturally become peaceable. Patience simply means having the maturity to wait to handle something.
  3. Patience is acquired when you choose to be the bigger person. There are going to be times in your life when you face confrontation. These moments will surely come. However, if you decide to be mature about it and deal with it like an adult, you will gain patience. The definition of patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering  without getting angry or upset. Patience shows that you have maturity. It is something that will be able to elevate you to a new social platform. But you have to make that choice. Patience is not granted freely. It is something that you work on. So how do you know what being the bigger person is? Well, first things first reacting in a way that does not cause strife or drama is being the bigger person. Continually, being the bigger person is taking the effort to consider the end results of a reaction. To be a bigger person, you think of things like will this edify my life or cause strife? That’s how you know you have reached maturity.
  4. The last step in gaining patience is to love. Biblically, love is patient. Thus, in order to be patient, you must have love. When, I talk of love,  I don’t necessarily mean the sentimental, commercialized, romantic love. I simply mean the love that is achieved whole heartedly like a friendly love or a brother/sister love. When you have true love for someone you will naturally be patient with them. Why do you think parents love their children so much after all their mishaps? This is because they have love for them. Going on the biblical standpoint again love is slow to anger. This is the epitome of patience. In conclusion, if you want to be a more patient person, make the effort, be the bigger person and get some love in your heart. Thanks for reading. I hope this was helpful.

Sincerely,

Abisola