Social Floater

Hello,

As I embark on my new journey to college, I have been reflecting on the people that have meant a lot to me over the years. Excluding family, these people are my friends. I’m not really sure if you can fully grasp my personality through my posts. I’m curious to see what you think/how you would describe my personality. So, please feel free to comment. Today’s post is all about my friendship history. So here’s the tea:

For the majority of my life, my personality would be considered very bubbly. I am one of those individuals that are jovial with a beautiful smile on my face. I would describe myself as an extrovert. I love meeting new people. I love socials/get togethers where I can hang out and chill. It’s quite elating. With this notion, you would think making friends would be so easy for me. Well, that is quite the contrary. Yes, my personality definitely suited me for making acquaintances but making  real genuine friends was always a struggle. I think I’ll take the blame for my difficulty in friend-making. To begin with,  I dealt with trust issues. My trust issues stemmed from difficulty with my estranged father. His infidelity issues lead to me feel as though people, especially men were untrustworthy. One of the core tenets of friendship is trust. Therefore, it always took me a long time to trust potential friends.

Additionally, as the title of the post entails, I am definitely a social floater. A social floater is someone that goes about different social groups because they are not official members of one social group. I remember in middle school, some one asked me who my friends were. I didn’t know how to respond. Then one of the students chimed in. “Abby is friends with everyone”. That statement definitely rang true. In middle school and high school we tend to be so clique-y. There’s pressure to be apart of the group. The closest thing I had to being in my own “squad” was middle school. There was a group of girls who had been friends since elementary school. I started getting closer to each individual in that group. Eventually, I would have to start hanging out with their group as a whole. You could say I was an honary member of their group. Then, in high school they went to different schools. The group split up. So I moved on and made my own friends. Ironically, these friends were all part of different social groups.I just could never really fit in with one group of people.

The present: Now that high school is over, I’m ready for a change in friendship. I have less than two weeks before I go off to college. Despite this, I have already realized how much easier it is to make friends in college. Social media, group me, and the internet make it so easy to connect with people. I am proud to say that I have began to make a good amount of friends. It’s such a blessing to find people who are like-minded. I truly believe that these friends that I make will be lifelong friends. My sister will always be my best friend. We are exceptionally close. However, it would be nice to find a friend that would be at least half as close as I am to my sister.

Well, that’s all that I have for today. Please remember to like, comment, and share. Thanks for reading.

Love,

Abisola