Perfect Timing

As a woman, I have contemplated the idea of how I want my life to play out. There seems to be a system to it: Go to college, establish a career, get married, then have children.  There seems to be a time and a place for everything. In fact, I have been so calculated with the planning of my life, that I have even put age on some of the life milestones I want to achieve. For example, I have always said that I do not want to get married before the age of 25. Some might find this appaling, and others might approve. I make this statement to state that I don’t want to be tied down in my early 20s. I want to travel and enjoy life as a bachelorette. However, from what I hear and seen, college seems to be the quintessential place to find a life partner. So many individuals state that they have found their spouses at university. Well then how does that fit with my plan? How long would I date/court in order to get married?  Although I have met some potential relationship prospects during my time in college, I am not sure if I can make the claim that these men are on husband status for me. However, I have decided to have an open mind to the idea of getting married earlier.

Apart from marriage, finding the “perfect timing” in life is absolutely impossible. I find this difficult to process. I am an avid planner. I like to make a concrete detailed plan for every day and every stage of my life. Nonetheless, I am trying to realize that you can’t always plan everything, Have you ever heard the saying “Life happens”. Well, it is definitely true. There are just some circumstances in life that you can not prepare for. Maybe you find your spouse before you have established your career? Or maybe you get pregnant unexpectedly.  Maybe you change your major in the middle of your junior year. That is why a plan B is crucial to fix this discrepancies. For example, if I don’t God forbid, go through with my journalism career, I want to possibly go into business. My main priority will be to focus on my first plan. However, knowing that I have a back up plan gives me a sense of security.  So how do you go with the flow when it comes to dealing with timing?

  1. Let life happen. Don’t micromanage everything in your life. Give time for leeway. Even if you make a to-do list, give your self extra time for miscellaneous circumstances.
  2. Agree to Disagree. You don’t have to be right about every aspect of your life. Learn to trust yourself but listen to others advice.
  3.  Take a chance. Sometimes its important to go out of your comfort zone. It’s ok to be spontaneous even if its with your major life choices. For example, take a vacation and travel to a foreign country. Talk  to that cute boy in your math class. Be courageous with your life.

Well, that’s all I have for today. I hope you find this helpful. Please like, share and comment.

Much love,

Abisola