Top 5 Affordable Fall Date Ideas

Fall is finally here. That means that cuffing season is in full effect. For those of you who don’t know, cuffing season is the time during the colder months (fall and winter) in which people desire to be in relationships. The prolonged indoor activity and weather is the perfect time to have someone to be in a relationship with romantically. Although I am very much single, I couldn’t help but think of some of the perfect date ideas I would love to do with my significant other, or maybe even friend during these fall months.

  1. Pumpkin Patch: As cliche as this might sound, there’s nothing like a pumpkin patch to bring out the fall season. It’s the perfect opportunity to chat with your bae while picking out Insta worthy pumpkins. To prolong the date, you can always go home and decorate the pumpkin together or carve it. This date is not only fun, but will cost you almost nothing.
  2. BonFire: The smell of roasting marshmallows and the warmth of the fire will bring you closer to your boo-thang.  The cozy setting will make it easier to open up to each other and just chill. With a sweet treat and a good convo, it’s a win-win situation.
  3. Hay Ride: This is another classic fall activity that you can share with that special someone in your life. Hay rides can be found at local fall festivals or gatherings. You get to enjoy nature and the fresh air while cozying up with your date. You all will be in such a zen state afterwards.
  4.  Picnic: Take advantage of the cool air and eat al fresco. It definitely beats eating in a restaurant. Not only will you connect with your partner better when you’re not in a congested or crowded restaurant, but you will have the opportunity to bask in the fresh air.
  5. Haunted House: This might sound like an out of place date venue, but ladies take notes. The scariness of the house gives you a perfect excuse, to hold your date’s hand. They can “protect” you and give you “comfort”. Likewise, studies have shown that people who experience adventurous or adrenaline causing scenarios together, tend to bond faster. Isn’t that the whole point of a date?

Well, I hope you all found this useful. Let me know which date idea, you will be trying out.

Lots of Love,

Abisola

How to Deal with Homesickness

Homesickness can happen to anyone. Whether you spend a week at summer camp or 4 years in university, the feeling can be mutual. I have mentioned this in other posts but when I was in high school, I yearned to go to university. I was tired of my boring little town. There’s nothing to do, I thought. While that is certainly true, now that I am in college, I have somewhat of a different perspective on my hometown and home in general. I have to admit I have yet to be truly homesick. However, I do have a greater appreciation for being home. Because I do not have a car in college, just driving to the grocery store is a mini adventure. My mother came to visit me this weekend. Although we talk multiple times a day, having the face to face in person communication with her was something I cherish immensely. I know a lot of my viewers are college students or young adults. Therefore, I am going to give you some tips on how  I deal with homesickness.

  1. Stay Connected. We are fortunate to live in a world full of technology that can bring us closer to our loved ones. This may sound old-fashioned, but try connecting with your friends and family over the phone, as opposed to texting. You get a deeper and more personal connection when you hear the sound of their voice. Likewise, take advantage of FaceTime and Skype. You’ll feel as though you are right there with them. On a different note, stay connected through social media. Scroll through their pictures, see what there up to. This may sound creepy but it works. If they don’t have social media,  look through old pictures with you and them together. Reminiscing will help you savor the memories.
  2. Stay busy.  When you are preoccupied you will have less time to dwell on your homesickness. My mom always told me that “an idle mind is a devil’s workshop.” Focus on your school work. Focus on your job. Make new friends. Yes, the new friends may never “replace” your old ones, but they will keep you company until you can see your old friends again.
  3. Be patient. It’ll be just a matter of time before you can schedule a visit to see your family/friends. When your doing your own thing, and making progress you will have so much to tell them when you do see them again. The only cure for homesickness is to go home. But for some that may take time. If you are patient and not too anxious about it, you will see that time flies. Have fun in the meantime. Home will be just around the corner.

I hope you found this helpful. Let me know in the comments what you think. Thanks for reading.

Love,

Abisola

How To Make New Friends: College Edition

If anyone were to ask me to describe my personality, I would say that I am an extrovert. I am outgoing, bubbly,  talkative, and love meeting new people. With this in mind, you might think that making friends for me would be a piece of cake. Well, that is the case to a degree. One of the things that I was most excited for during my transition to college was meeting new people. After being with the same group of people for the past four years of high school, I was ready for a change. I took advantage of our tech savy generation and made the majority of my initial interactions online. If you are a freshman in high school or a senior in high school, here are some tips/ways to start building new friendships.

  1. Social media: We live in a digital age and with this in mind we have to adapt to the times. Although I recommend the old-fashioned way of meeting people in person, social media can still be a great tool to put yourself out there. One of the ways, I met people was by joining my school’s class of 2020 facebook page.. It might seem awkward at first with people introducing themselves but if you make the effort, you might find someone who is similar to you. I can’t believe I’m admitting this, but I social media stalk. If I saw someone that seemed like an interesting or cool person based off there Instagram or facebook, I simply messaged them. Trust me, you won’t be the only one doing it either. I was messaged by  people too. Once you have been talking continuously, simply ask for their phone number and you can build your friendship from messager to text to many even phone calls one day. One of the downsides about this is that even if you do message people, meeting them in person may or may not be awkward. You can’t really gage a person’s behavior until you meet them in person. That is why my next tip is as follows:
  2. Go to events: I can’t stress the importance of being involved on campus. Your never going to meet people if all you do is stay around in your dorm by yourself watching Netflix. If there is a social on campus, go to it. Join clubs and organizations. Be involved in a sorority, it’s a great way to build a sisterhood. The point is in order for you to make friends, you have to make an effort to be around people.
  3. Start a group me: If you are in a smaller classroom setting, and need some study partners, ask for people’s numbers and start a group chat. Not only will this connect you with your classmates and hopefully likeminded individuals, you just might also make friends in the process.
  4. Be bold: This might sound strange, but don’t be afraid to make small talk or mingle with random strangers. There’s a friend that I made in college, by literally connecting over the love of soup from the salad bar. We didn’t know each other before. Both of us were about to sit by ourselves at the dining hall but we decided to sit together. Simple things like starting conversations with people you don’t know can go a long way.

I hope you all found these tips helpful. Let me know how you will try to make new friends in the comments below.

Spanish History Spotlight: Gina Rodriguez

Hello everyone,

Sorry I have been a bit M.I.A. The beginning of fall semester in college has sure got me busy. Can you believe it! It’s already September. This year has gone by incredibly fast. With this in mind, September is Spanish Heritage Month. For all my Latina viewers, this ones for you. This post is about one of my favorite up and coming Latina actresses. Jane the Virgin’s Gina Rodriguez. She is such a role model for women of all ages not only Latina but all women as well. Check it out:

It’s not difficult to fall in love with Jane the Virgin’ s lead character Jane played by the beautiful and exceptionally talented Gina Rodriguez. Rodriguez is the Poster Child for positivity and embodies the essence of a strong Latina woman.  Not only does she exude confidence in everything she does, she is a fighter. She struggled with a debilitating health condition for over a decade.  When she was 19 studying acting at  New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts, she was diagnosed with a thyroid disease called Hashimoto’s disease. Though she had no appetite her weight ballooned and she dealt with extreme fatigue to  the point that she slept for 18 hours a day. “Like, if being brown wasn’t hard enough, here’s another obstacle,” she says of the condition “Then I thought, how much greater is my story? This is going to be a journey of accepting who I am within societal norms of what a lead actress looks like. The second I stopped feeling like I wasn’t enough was the second I realized I was capable of doing anything.”

Gina did not let her condition take over her life. After Jane the Virgin’s first season, she took home a Golden Globe for Best Actress in  a TV comedy. She combated Hollywood Beauty Standards in her speech. “In our society, it’s easier to sell somebody the idea of not being enough versus ‘You are enough.’ It’s like we women consciously decide we’re going to be mean to ourselves,” she observes. “But you’re your own hero, not some image you can’t live up to.  However, she knows exactly how it feels to not feel “enough”.  The Puerto Rican star has had backlash for not being “Latina enough”.  Following a post on Instagram with grammatical errors in Spanish, people called her a gringa. (Slang for foreigner) The starlet now rolls her eyes at the incident. In fact, she took a stand against underrepresentation in media by posting #MovementMondays where she showcases actors and actresses of unrepresented ethnicties.

When it came to her health, after her body stopped responding to the synthetic drugs she was placed on, she took a holistic approach. “I’ve also had to buckle down and stop eating certain things that don’t do well with my body. Now I look at foods I’m allergic to, like strawberries and blueberries, and say, ‘You don’t play well with me, so I have to stop messing with you.'” These small changes have made a major impact. She feels healthier and more energetic.

Rodriguez has now graced the covers of Women’s Health and Health Magazine. She continues to advocate a healthy lifestyle and is a positive role model for Latina women everywhere.

What is your favorite Gina Rodriguez moment? Let us know in the comments below.

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