Chit Chat: College, Friends, Boys and All In Between

Hey guys,

I’ve been in a venting mood lately. I have been having so many experiences in life that I have been wanting to chronicle and express through song, writing, talking, and so forth. Although this blog is not a diary, I do feel as though the little community that reads it should get to know a little bit about me. I mean the blog is called “AbisolaBlog”. I am Abisola, so I feel as though it’s only right for you all to get a life update about me. Enough mumbling, let’s get to it.

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College:

For those of you who don’t know, I am a freshman at the University of Central Florida in Orlando.  If you look back at a blog post from July of 2016, I did a First Semester of College Reflection. However, a lot has changed from that semester to this fall semester. Starting university during summer B was definitely helpful for my transition into fall. However, to sum up my first semester fall semester of college in a nutshell, all I can describe it as is “interesting”. There have been so many highlights. Academically, I am an overachiever. Therefore, the work load so far is not that bad. My classes are not yet associated with my major, so I do not find them very interesting. Nonetheless, I feel slightly challenged, but definitely not overwhelmed. I thank summer B as well as the rigorous high school curriculum for making my academic transition so smooth.

Socially, that is another story. I have learned so many lessons about people from being in college. These lessons include: Friends come and go. Some people only want you when it’s convenient. Some friends don’t want to hear the hard truth. Some people are not as innocent as they seem.

Ok, let me stop here. I know these lessons make it seem as though I’ve only met a bunch of fake friends. That is not the case.  Yes, I have definitely met a lot of “friends” that have not ended up living up to my friendship expectations. However, I can say that socially I have made some amazing friends. To start off, I have a couple of friends that I still keep in touch with from summer B. Continually, I just want to give a big shout out to my roommate. We had “met” via a roommate matching website.  Despite this, it wasn’t until August that we met each other in person. I am extremely grateful to have her as a roommate. She has become a true, genuine,  keep-it-real friend, and sista. I know that our friendship will continue to grow stronger in the future. I can’t go talking about all of my friends that I’ve made. However, a positive lesson that I have learned is quality over quantity. It’s better to have few quality friends then a plethora of half-baked friends.

College would not be fun if I did not get involved. I am a proud member of the Gospel and Cultural Choir at UCF. I am also a member of the African Student Organization as well as the Society of Professional Journalists. Additionally, I write for KnightNews.com. The organizations that I mentioned are just the ones that I have paid dues for. I love being involved in events and sometimes meetings of other organizations, particularly black organizations. It’s a great way to meet people and to have clean, wholesome fun while you’re at it.

Career:

Again, for some of my new viewers, I am a journalism major. I want to pursue a career as a news anchor/reporter for an entertainment news station. For my career, it’s all about experience and connections.  Although I am still fresh in the game, I am currently trying to obtain an internship that will set me apart from my peers and boost my resume. It’s never to early to begin to build your empire. I also write for a website called PrettyGirlsSweat.com. I  am so blessed to have this forum for me to expand and build upon my career.

Boys:

Back in high school, I was never involved in a serious romantic relationship. I never stressed the romance factor in my life, because I knew that most high school relationships did not even last. I looked forward to college to hopefully have better prospects and opportunities in that area of my life. Fast forward to the present and I’m still single. I am saying this in the most  comical perspective as I can. Yes, the prospects are 10x better.  Nonetheless, this is not Drum Line where everyone eventually gets booed up. I have definitely talked and built friendships with potential boo-things. Personally, I am an old-fashioned gal and think that a man should pursue a woman. With this in mind, I have not properly been pursued yet. That is why I’m single.  For girls who are in my same boat. Don’t lose hope. It will happen at the right time with the right person. With the right person, you won’t have to stress about whether or not they want you the way you want them. It will be obvious and they will adore the ground that you walk on.  Till then, do you boo. That’s what I’m doing. I know I’m still young and luscious. Plus, I just got into college, they’ll be plenty more fish in the sea.

Spiritual:

As a Christian, I try to make God the center of my life. In college, it’s easier said then done. You are independent. If you don’t want to go to church, your parents aren’t there to force you. However, I knew that I had spiritual goals that I wanted to attain. Therefore, I feel as though I have actually gotten closer to God. I am still far from perfect. However, I am in a stage in my life where I know that I am able to invest and build a personal relationship with him. My desire for God has been revived.  I am apart of a bible study at school. I am allocating more time to studying the word. Likewise, I have evangelistic goals as well. I want to talk about God to some of my friends that are hurting spiritually. I can probably get more detailed in another blog post. All in all, I feel as though I am in a good place emotionally, and mentally because I am growing in God.

Well, this post was longer than I expected. If you like more chit chat/ life update posts let me know in the comments below.

Stay Fabulous,

Abisola

4 Ways to Be More Grateful Before Thanksgiving

Hello everyone,

I decided to take a break from the College Diaries Series and do a little advice post. As Thanksgiving is quickly approaching us, my heart is starting to get that overwhelming feeling of warmth. The warmth does not come solely because it’s almost the holidays, but rather the fact that I am in a state of gratitude. The true meaning behind Thanksgiving is sometimes lost in all of the feasting. I mean for goodness sakes, who can resist the “Greens, beans, potatoes, tomatoes..?.” Yes, I just referenced the “You Name It Challenge.  Gratitude can bring so much appreciation for your life. It puts things into perspective. That is why, I’m going to give you all 4 Ways to Be More Grateful.

  1. Keep a Journal:

Journaling is not just an outlet for self-expression. It can be a way of expressing things you appreciate. When you take the time to write down everything you are grateful for daily, you get a visual representation of all the things in your life that truly matter. Continually, when you write a journal entry of a positive experience, you can always go back to it as a record of happier times. This is especially useful when you are feeling under the weather. Storing positive memories that can be read, will make you grateful for the wonderful life you do have.

2.   Stop and Smell the Roses:

We live in a society that is fast paced and hard-knock. However, it is crucial for your mental clarity to stop every now and then, to enjoy the simple things. Live in the present. Social media and SnapChat can sometimes take away from enjoying the moment. So the next time you are at an exciting event, put your phone away. Your mind and memory is a powerful tool. Don’t worry, that moment will be documented in your heart.  Living in the moment, is your golden ticket to being a more grateful individual.

3.  Find Spiritual Clarity:

Spirituality might be a difficult topic for some people. However, you don’t have to be religious to be spiritual. Studies have shown correlations between individuals who consider themselves spiritual and the level of gratitude and appreciation of life. Perhaps you might want to take time out of your day to meditate. Likewise, you can take time out of your day to engage in something related to your faith. Giving thanks to the universe, or something higher than yourself, leads to a greater level of gratitude.

4. Help Those Who Can’t Help Themselves:

When you put yourself in situations where you help the less fortunate, your perspective on life completely changes. You become appreciative of all the seemingly “little” things that you have. Volunteer at that homeless shelter. Donate cans for that food drive.  Sometimes all it takes to be a more grateful person, is to step off your high horse and help those that can’t help themselves.

What are some of the ways you become more grateful. Let me know in the comments.

Love,

Abisola

 

 

College and Career Diaries: Law

Hi guys,

Here’s the fourth edition of College and Career Diaries. Today’s post is with someone that I respect. I know that at the end of this you will respect her as well.

Mrs. Iesha Nunes is a Commercial Litigation lawyer at White and Case LLP law firm in Miami. She graduated from the University of Florida in 2012 with a double major in Criminology and Family, Youth, and Community Science. From there, she went on to graduate from the University of Florida Fredric G. Levin College of Law in 2016.  I got the chance to pick her brain about all things law.

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How can someone on the Pre-Law track in undergrad prepare for law school?

I recommend taking substantive writing courses that will improve your writing skills and challenge your ability to analyze text. I would also recommend taking business courses because although business law may not be the area you are most interested in, it is intertwined with almost every subject of law. It’s harder to catch up in law school if you don’t have

    What are some LSAT study tips?

Study long and hard! You should be spending the majority of your time studying in preparation for the LSAT. If you are able, I would recommend not taking classes or working while studying for the LSAT so that you can devote as much time and attention to it as you possibly can. The LSAT is so very important to ensure that you get into a top law school (which makes it easier to get a job later down the line). If you don’t get a great score (aim for the 160s or higher), you should definitely study hard and re-take it. I also recommend taking a prep course if you can. Research them to find out the best one for you and don’t forget to take more practice exams than they give you

What are some study tips/ techniques that worked for you while you were in law school?

I read for class the night before or woke up early the morning of class to make sure that I was prepared. I briefed every case for the first semester until I got comfortable processing and retaining the information quickly. I also used class outlines from 2Ls and 3Ls to better understand cases and the bigger picture for the course. It’s also important to study with others once you feel prepared to make sure you aren’t missing anything! Don’t forget to use supplements efficiently. Personally, I used supplements after I finished my outlines to reinforce all of the information but you have to do what works best for you!

What is something that you expected from law school that was different once you got there?

I expected law school to be very competitive but the students at my law school were extremely collaborative. Everyone helped one another to succeed. This may not be true at every law school, which is why it is important to speak to people that go to the law schools that you are interested in so that you can make sure it’s a good fit for you.

What advice would you give to someone about to enter law school?

Get ready for a crazy ride! Law school is incredibly tough but it is also transformative. You will not only transform the way that you think, but you will also learn the importance of networking and connecting with others.

How can you stand out as an undergrad applying for law school?

Write a personal statement that speaks to who you truly and engage in leadership positions in organizations that matter to you. You should be able to relay your experiences in life and in your organizations so that someone reading your personal statement will finish it and think to themselves, “Wow. I need to meet this person!”

 How did you stay motivated in law school?

I kept my eyes on the finish line. It was always my goal to become an attorney. I may have been stressed and overwhelmed at times but I had to remind myself that I was doing this because I was meant to. It was my purpose to become an attorney and it was up to me to fulfill that. Never forget that you are your only limit. You may stumble along the way, but it’s up to you to pick yourself up and keep moving to the finish line.

What is a common misconception about lawyers that you would like to refute?

A lot of people seem to think that lawyers (especially those that work in big law firms) are stuffy and cold people, but this isn’t true. There’s a large mix of personalities in every firm and law school. You have to find the right fit for you. Just because one firm or one law school doesn’t feel right to you doesn’t mean you’re not meant to be a lawyer. There are so many different types of law that you can really shop around to find which area suits you best.

Did you know what type of lawyer you wanted to be before law school? How can someone explore their possibilities?

I thought that I wanted to be a family law attorney but completely changed my mind as I entered law school. You can explore the possibilities by taking coursework in different areas as well as working in diverse environments. You can do internships that will expose you to more than one area of law. For example, I was once a summer clerk in a county attorney’s office that had attorneys working in almost every area of law you can imagine. I used that experience to take on assignments from as many areas as I could so that I could see what I liked and didn’t like.

 If you couldn’t be a lawyer what would you be?

I think that I would have tried out marketing or teaching. I’m no sure though. I never really had a plan B, which is why I definitely had to make law school work out for me.

Well there you have it. Isn’t she wonderful? If you have any more questions for her, let me know in the comments.

Stay Blessed,

Abisola