Black History Month Spotlight: The Black Women In My Life, Who Give Me Life


Figure 1: My Mom, Sister, and I

Hello everyone,

For those of you who don’t know, in the U.S. February is Black History Month. This is the time of the year in which the contributions, culture, and essence of black Americans in this country are celebrated and appreciated. As a black Nigerian-American, I am so grateful for this time in the year to truly embrace my culture. With this in mind, I would like to appreciate the black women in my life who have made a positive impact. As black women, I feel as though it is important to build each other up, and each individual in which I am going to mention have done that in their own unique way. So sit back and let’s get into it.

My Mama


I could talk about all the wonderful aspects of my mother from today until tomorrow and still not be able to capture the essence of her fabulousness. My mother has taught me so many life lessons and shaped me into the woman that I am today. My mother embodies grace, poise, wisdom, and a caring and compassionate heart. She has instilled in me Godly values and has shaped me into what it means to be a strong black woman. She taught me to love myself as a black woman. She has taught me that despite what society my think “My black is beautiful.” Moreover, as an African she exemplifies queen-like behavior. This post is not solely about my mother so I must move on. However, leave with this knowing that my mother has played the biggest influence on my life.

My Sister


This woman right here is my other half. If the definition of soulmate was not based on romance, she would exemplify everything that a soul mate has. Even things that I do not feel comfortable to share with my mother, I can share with her. I look up to her and put her on such a high pedestal because she is truly an amazing. She radiates pure unadulterated joy and compassion for others. Her smile truly lights up the world and her laugh causes the birds to sing.  I can always count on her for her advice and wisdom. As a black professional and future doctor she is the epitome of black excellence and black girl magic.

My Grandma


My grandma, the matriarch of the family. She is sassy, fierce, and tells you things the way it is, without sugar coating it. Despite her age, her zest and passion for life prevails. Her love for God and spiritual level is one that I aspire to reach. I can always rely on her for interesting stories and honest critique. Because of her I have a place in New York. She is truly BK’s (Brooklyn’s) Finest.

My Cameroonian Sister


Although biologically, I only have one sister, throughout the years, Cassie Angu has become an honorary sibling. For those of you who have been reading the blog for a while now, you may remember Cassie from our interview about college. The relationship that I have with her is strong and unique. We are both extroverts, and although that may think that would cause a personality clash, we actually compliment each other. I can always count on her to give me a good laugh, be a support system, and simply vent. We have so many memories together. I have watched her blossom into a confident, beautiful, intelligent, and compassionate woman. Her melanin runs deep and she slays her life effortlessly. I thank God for our relationship.

Well, there you have it. These black queens have all blessed my life in distinguishable ways. While there are other people that have influenced me, these individuals deserved a shout out. Who has played a major role in your life. Let me know in the comments. (Via Contact  section)


Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo