All That Glitters Isn’t Gold

Hey guys,

It’s been a while since I’ve done a specific “topic” type post.  My life has been on a constant rush and I have been trying to find inspiration to write.

Today I would like to talk about the cliche idiom that I’m sure you have all heard before.

“All that Glitters Isn’t Gold.”

What does that mean to me? What does that mean to you? Why is that so?

Competition is a healthy human attribute. However, comparison is the enemy of progress.

In all honesty, it is OK to find motivation to do better based on what your peers are doing.

For example, if your friends are making good grades, eating healthy, getting jobs, and so forth, it would be quite silly of you to not want the same things for yourself.

Hopefully, you are in friendships with healthy competition to motivate each other to do great.

Here’s when the dangerous part comes in.

If you are constantly wishing to live someone else’s life and you are being envious of them, you need to reevaluate some things.

I repeat, all that glitters isn’t gold.

We live in a society that loves social media, vlogging, and posting about the highlights of our lives. This can often skew our perception of how great others lives actually are.

For example, how many times have you scrolled through your timeline to see a picture of a couple with the hashtag #RelationshipGoals?

This same couple may be arguing every night or going through financial woes. If you base your desires on the images from social media, you will end up only looking at the surface level picture.

Another example could be comparing your bodies to models.

They may appear thin and delicate, but some have gone through extreme measures to get to that point. Others, actually wish they had more curves to fill in their dresses.

The grass is not greener on the other side.  Some people would wish they had the same problems that you have.

I am learning to be content with my situation.  My life and the things that I go through are set and ordained by God for me.

My advice is to stop looking at the “gold” that others have and start looking at your own treasures.

You are valuable beyond compare.

That’s all I have to say for today.

Stay Blessed,

Abisola

 

Why Everyone Should See “Get Out”

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Hello,

I wanted to share some commentary on the new movie “Get Out.” I recently watched the film with a friend and I had quite an interesting reaction. Initially, I thought that the plot had too many holes for it to be considered an “amazing” movie. If you were to ask me what I would rate the film after seeing it, I would have told you a 6.5 out of 10. However, after doing more analysis and discussing it with friends and family,  I realized this movie is truly exceptional.

Plot Synopsis:

The movie is about an African-American man, Chris, who goes on a weekend trip with his Caucasian girlfriend, Rose, to visit her parents. Upon arrival, he realizes that her family is strange and treats the black house help unusually.  Shortly after,  Chris is kidnapped and taken into a make-shift, home-hospital to have his organs removed and transplanted in a white man’s body. I don’t want to spoil the story, but I will give you a heads up. Chris does get out of his dilemma.

Why You Should See The Film:

Highlights Realistic Racial Stereotypes

We live in an age where race relations are a hot topic.  This movie dealt with the racial stereotypes of black and white people. For example,  Rose’s family and friends wanted to capture black people because they believe they are faster, stronger, cooler, and were blessed with unfair advantageous traits. This may have been an explanation to why there is so much cultural appropriation of black people that goes on today. Even the vulgar stereotype of black men being more, eh hem, endowed in the bedroom was addressed. Rose’s family friend asked her “So, is it really better?” , insinuating Chris’ sexual prowess.

Unique Perspective of Interracial Relationships

In the beginning, Rose appeared to be the perfect example of how a white person dating a minority should behave. She defended him to the police, her family, and appeared to be conscious and supportive of his struggles. However, when her true colors were revealed, it became apparent that she only wanted Chris as a fetish. While not every white person who dates a black person fetishizes them, it was definitely a thought provoking point. Moreover,  the movie showed an example of how awkward it could potentially be as a minority meeting the “white parents.” Obviously, the movie had a satirical, exaggerated version, but for every joke there is a hint of reality.

Hidden Symbolism

If you are an analytical person, you will love this movie. You shouldn’t watch this movie with face value. Almost every element of the movie held a deeper revelation of a theme. With foreshadowing, symbolism, and thematic content, this movie will have you thinking way deep. I do not want to spoil the concepts but I will say that after watching this movie, your  mind will be  blown.

Stay Woke

If you are someone that loves talking about social justice or racial equality, this one is for you. Learning the pysche behind why certain people treat other races the way they do in this film, is the perfect way to stay woke.

Well, that’s all I have for today. I hope you have a wonderful day.

Stay Blessed and Stay Woke,

Abisola XoXo

 

They Said, But God Said

Hi everyone,

This Sunday I wanted to share something spiritual. This post was inspired by the Jekalyn Carr song “They Said, But God Said.” I stumbled upon this song while listening to my YouTube gospel mix.

Be sure to check it out.

The lyrics touch on the fact that people always have an opinion about you.Good or bad.

However, God always has a positive perspective on your situation.  The bible says in Jeremiah 29:11

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

This just shows that God wants the best for you. He is the only one that you should be listening to.  He sees your future despite what the enemy may bring.

I haven’t ever officially shared my personal testimony, but two years ago I was in a hospital bed with no hope. Doctors said that I would never make it out the same.

But GOD SAID, I was destined for greatness. GOD SAID, I was going to come out healed.

GOD SAID, I would get into college after missing school for months.

GOD SAID, I would be valedictorian.

GOD SAID, I would get into my major.

GOD SAID, I would get my internship this summer.

There are so many testimonies that have come about from what “GOD Said”. When you truly listen to his commandments and obey, the world’s expectations of who you are will not even matter.

Like the song says: “You are a chosen one.”

I recommend that you tune out the negativity of people and the world around you. When you start seeing things as what God says spiritually, you will truly have a changed life.

Remember, what God says about you is the only thing that matters. He loves you unconditionally and thinks you are one of a kind.

That’s all I have for today.

Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo

 

March Update: Internship, Birthday, and How I Stay On Top of Things

Hello everyone,

I cannot believe that it is already March of 2017. This year is just flying and it can honestly be a little overwhelming to think of how fast time goes. Sometimes you just wish there were more hours in the day.

However,  2017 has been treating me with an abundance of blessings. I wanted to share some of the amazing things that are going on in my life.

Academics/Career

For those of you who don’t know, I am a freshman at the University of Central Florida. I generally proceed by stating that I am a journalism major. Nonetheless, it wasn’t until a few weeks ago that I could actually truly claim that as my major.  UCF’ s journalism program is a highly selective and competitive program that you have to apply for admission into. But by the grace of God, this February, I was accepted into the Electronic (Broadcast) News track.

The blessings don’t stop there. *Drum roll please*

I received my first internship with WFTV Channel 9 (ABC news) for this summer. I had been applying and trusting God for an internship and he surely came through. I am beyond grateful for the opportunity to let “little old me”, a freshman become an intern for their news station.

One Time for the Birthday Girl

On February 27th, I celebrated my 19th birthday. I prefer not to use the hashtag “#Nasty 19”, but was sure to use #Queen19. Whatever way I would like to present it, I am a year older.

I am still trying to process my age and enjoy the last year of being a teenager, before  I embark on my 20s.

It is almost surreal to think of that. I am excited for what this year has to bring and I was so grateful that I was able to celebrate with my friends.

Here is a picture from my birthday dinner at Smokey Bones. (I highly recommend, by the way)

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How I Am Holding Up

I have to admit. The demands of school and extracurriculars are catching up to me. During times of stress I am learning to re-focus and re-energize myself. Listening to calming music while doing school work seems to help. The white noise in the background keeps you distraction free. Also, I am learning to say “no.”  Like my mother always says “Body no be wood”, which means that you are not a machine. You can’t always do everything. Sometimes you have to learn to reevaluate your time and decline certain offers. There is no shame in that.

Well, that’s all that I have for today. I hope you enjoyed this. Let me know in the contact comment section if you have something you’d like to say to me.

With Love,

Abisola XoXo