“Church-Goer Syndrome” Vs. Relationship With God

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Happy Sunday everyone,

I hope you all are having a blessed day. Today’s post has been something that has been placed on my heart for a while now. Sometimes topics come to me sporadically and I have to let the ideas simmer before I make a post.

Let’s dive right in.

Churchiness/Churchy/Church-Goers Syndrome:

There is a lot of terminology for this concept, however, for those of you who don’t know I will explain.  The harsh reality of life is that some people who go to church consistently, do not have a relationship with God. As hypocritical as it may sound,  there are people who put on a facade. You might see these people being the head of the prayer team, worship leaders, children’s ministry leaders. These individuals may seem to have all “put together.” They may even be so put together that they seemingly judge others who do not fit their interpretation of a Christ follower.

Ironically the gag is on them because, the bible states that Jesus did not come for the whole, he came for the ungodly. There’s a quote that goes

“The church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints,” Abigail Van Buren

This simply means that God would rather us come to church as we are in all of our flaws and imperfections, than be fake an pretend to be perfect.

Another common part of the Church-Goer syndrome, is the double life.

I have seen this way too often, where people in ministry or Christian organizations will act one way in the church or ministry and then proceed to deliberately sin outside of that.

I am not claiming righteousness, but I know the importance of maintaining holiness outside of holy grounds.

This plays a role in the idea of lukewarmness. If you are fervently seeking God in all areas of your life, you will be convicted of sinning outside of church.

At the end of the day, the church is not going to save you. God sees everything, even your deepest darkest secrets. Therefore, try to live a life of integrity. My rule of thumb is, if I will feel guilty about going to church the next morning after doing something, I probably shouldn’t be doing it.

You should ask yourself “Outside of my ministry or Godly organizations, does Jesus know me as a child of God?” Sometimes you have to hold yourself accountable.

Relationship With God

Let’s say you have diagnosed yourself with the Church-Goers Syndrome, but you won’t to actually know God intimately. What’s the next step?

Ask God to come into your heart. Tell him that you repent of all your sins. Pray that he helps you to resist sin and temptation. Then, actively avoid the sin.

Another key part of building a relationship with God is to pray. Prayer is simply talking to God. You can talk to him about everything such as desires, worries, forgiveness, or simply getting through the day. He is a friend, father, and your personal guidance. He wants to get to know you and for you to do the same.

Additionally, reading the bible is key to gaining a relationship with God. In the past, this was an area that I slacked on the most. However, when I began to read my bible daily, I saw a significant difference in my relationship with God. The word is like food for your soul. You wouldn’t intentionally go days without food, why would you go days without feeding your spirit.

One of the reasons why people do not read their bibles is because they find it difficult to interpret and boring. I highly recommend downloading the bible app and picking a devotional that best suits you. This will allow you to have an in-depth interpretation if the word is hard for you to comprehend.

Overall, I hope that you seek a relationship with God, rather than being churchy. At the end of the day, going to church is critical, but it is not going to get you to heaven.

I hope you have a wonderful day.

Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo

End of Semester Pep Talk

Hey guys,

This time of the year for students is often filled with weariness. You have spent so many tiring months working hard in school. This is the homeward stretch. I’m here to tell you that you will make it and you will succeed. Here is my pep talk that will hopefully encourage you.

Everyday you are one step closer to fulfilling your destiny.

Your education is one of the most significant parts of your life.

Don’t lose sight of why you are doing what your doing.

Keep the end goal in mind.

Learn to love the process.

In hindsight, your time in school will go by fast.

You won’t be in school forever, so enjoy this season in your life.

You started the race strong, so end strong.

Your success will be determined by the end result, so don’t slack off in the end.

When you reach your goal, it will all be worth it.

If you work hard now, you can play hard later.

Don’t stress too much on grades.

You are worth more than your G.P.A.

After you’ve done all you can, stand.

While there’s many more things that I can say, I don’t want to make this too lengthy. If you want some more pep talk, tips, or words of encouragement, feel free to message me through the contact section.


Love you all.


Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo


Why the “Prayer of Jabez” Should Be On Your Prayer List

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I hope everyone is doing well. As this semester is coming to an end for me, I find myself praying more and more for strength and guidance.  I have so many exciting things that are happening in my life that I will share in another post. However, more recently I find myself praying the “Prayer of Jabez.”

My first encounter with the “Prayer of Jabez” was when a family friend bought me a children’s bible story book for the “Prayer of Jabez.”

To give some biblical context, Jabez, meaning “bore in pain” was an honorable man of God. However, he was cursed with a name that meant pain because his mother birthed him in pain. He did not want to carry the burden of his namesake, and thus prayed this prayer.

1 Chronicles 4:10

Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” And God granted his request.

What does it mean to enlarge your territory?

In the biblical context, Jabez’s prayer was geared towards enlarging his realm of influence. He wanted to be a channel of blessing to others. He wanted to be blessed to be a blessing. The rest of the passage is self-explanatory as he prayed for safety and to be free from pain.

Why is it important to you?
As children of God, one of our primary purposes is to spread the gospel or the good news of Jesus. The only way we can do this is by enlarging our territory. It is so important that we not only pray to be blessed, but we pray that our blessings will help others.

Moreover, your territory can be financial territory. You can pray that God enlarges your territory for you to have financial blessings and success.

You can apply your territory to any aspect of your life, such as academics, career, relationships, or spiritual gifts.

The reason why this prayer is so useful, is because it covers a large range of topics.  Once your territory is enlarged and you are blessed,  the enemy cannot stop you from fulfilling your destiny.

I hope you incorporate this prayer into your daily life.

That’s all I have for today.


Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo

P.S. There is a song called the “Prayer of Jabez” that is a classic. Check it out.