Private Party and Riding Solo

Hello everyone,

Today I wanted to talk about something that I have been learning to embrace lately: Being Alone.

When we think about being alone, we often think of the idea of being an old maid, cat lady, or hermit with no friends or connection to the outside world. This does not have to be the case.

As an extrovert, I have suffered with the idea of being by myself and enjoying my own company. I thrive on social interactions.

This summer has been a learning experience. I have my own apartment. Only a few of my friends are within close proximity. I am single. I have a lot of me-time.

At first I took this fate as a tough pill to swallow. I thought, “I need more friends,” It would be nice to have a boyfriend”,  “I’m bored.” But after having a conversation with my sister, she told me to listen to an oldie by one of my favorite artists, India Arie.

The song is called “Private Party.” It is about being by yourself and just embracing who you are, and loving yourself.

The song reminded me how valuable being with oneself truly is. The great thing to know is that in fact, you are never really alone. God is always with you.

The time of singleness, he can be your man.

When you’re by yourself, you can pray and worship.

When you’re alone, you have time to gather your thoughts and essentially, be selfish.

There’s a limited amount of time in your life when all you have to think about is yourself.

When you have kids, a spouse,  or even parents, you will wish that you embraced the alone time more.

Another song that is an oldie but a goodie is Jason Derulo’s “Ridin Solo”. The song is upbeat and fun. Nonetheless, when you really get into the nitty gritty of what he is saying you will realize that singleness is not so bad. You have time to focus and recenter your life around yourself.

I hope this was able to encourage and uplift you.  If you ever feel alone, just know that God is with you. If you would like to chat or have something to say about this post. Feel free to contact me via the contact page.

Have a blessed day,

Abisola