My Thoughts on The Royal Wedding

 

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Hey guys,

How are you? Wedding season is here and if you’re not living under a rock, then you’d know that one of the biggest weddings of the year was yesterday: The Royal Wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. I wanted to share some thoughts I had on the wedding.

For starters, I am extremely happy for the couple. I obviously don’t know them, but seeing love just gets me in all kinds of feels. Plus, let’s get the elephant out of the room. Seeing a melanated sista as a new princess is even better.  Meghan being biracial is just the first steps for inclusion and diversity in the United Kingdom. Some critics say why should we be happy that she’s with a white man.  Or being a black woman makes here royalty enough. But while I do agree that as a black woman you are a queen, the significance is that she has the opportunity to bring representation in the royal family.  Little mixed girls can look up to her and think that one day they can be in prestigious positions.

Now let’s get to the real fun stuff, the dress.  I’m not here to bash her, but I was not a big fan. I thought it was very plain. There could have been more embellishments and a more precise silhouette.  I understand that she had conservative guidelines she had to follow, but I felt that the look was anti-climactic. Nonetheless, she still looked stunning. She is a natural and timeless beauty. Her glow was fantastic.

Their love story is beautiful. They were set up on a blind date by mutual friends. How romantic!  Also, the fact that she was a divorcee and is older than him, just goes to show that your past does not determine your future. When they were together, you could really tell that they were in love.

Overall,  the entire experience seemed so magical. It felt like it was something straight out of a fairy tale. I’m so glad that I could witness (from the internet) this historic moment.

I wish the couple all the best.

 

Stay Blessed,

Abisola

No Boo, No Problem?: 5 Reasons It’s Ok Not To Have a Summer Love

 

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Hey guys! How are you doing? Summer is coming and summer fling season is almost among us. While it may be tempting to jump into a fun summer love,  it’s not a bad thing to be single during this time. Your season of singleness is a precious one. Here are the 5 reasons why you should embrace your singleness this summer.

1.You Can Be More Care Free

When you are single the only thing that you have to worry about is yourself. If you’re single this summer, spend timing enjoying this good weather with good company (other than a romantic person). Hang out with your friends. Enjoy some self care time. Don’t stress your singleness but embrace the time in your life.  Be selfish (in reason). Do things that you want to do without consulting anyone. Be spontaneous. Don’t overthink things but live your life doing things that make YOU happy.

2.  You Can REALLY Focus On Your Passions

Yes, in a relationship, you can still do things that you are passionate about. But, in your season of singleness,  especially summer time, when your workload is lessened , you can dedicate more time to pursuing your passions and hobbies. This summer, if you find yourself single,  dedicate that extra free time to the things that you love. Whether it’s your art, your music, your photography or cooking,  hone in on your hobbies and enjoy focusing your energy on that.

3. You Can Save Some Coin

For my traditional men out there, or my modern ladies, going on dates can be expensive.  If you are single, you don’t have to pay for anyone’s meal. You don’t have to feel pressure to spend money doing activities to keep the spark alive.  What spark? Enjoy your time with your dinner for 1 or binging your favorite show without anyone interrupting.

4.   You Can Build Yourself Up

I’m a big advocate of self-development, especially in your season of singleness. How can you be someone’s partner or spouse if you have nothing to offer them? This summer if you are single, work on being a better person.  Develop spiritual and mental clarity.  Get in the best shape of your life. Work on your patience. Practice generosity. Whatever it is that you want to do to be the best version of yourself, do it during this season of singleness.

5.  You Can Discover Yourself

Being single is the perfect time for self-discovery. This summer, if you are single, spend time with yourself. Yes.  Ride solo for a little bit. Learn about your likes, dislikes, habits that need change. Discover who you really are as a person.  When you find out who you are, don’t forget to love yourself. How can someone love you, if you don’t love yourself? Learn to be 100% yourself. In the right time, the perfect person will fall in love with the person who is self-assured.

Well, that’s all I have for today.

Let me know if you have any questions, comments, or concerns.

 

Stay Blessed,

Abisola Xoxo

 

Poem for My Mother: Mother’s Day Post

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My mother

 

Hey guys! This post is for the queen of my life, my mother. I wanted to just show some appreciation to her.  I love her so much.  I encourage you to show some appreciation to your mother today.

 

 

As sure as I am that the sun will rise

My mother’s love will always be my prize

Who could ever compare to her?

No other person I know for sure

My mother walks with God’s radiance upon her

She taught me God’s ways so I would never wander

My mother is pure royalty

Her compassion for people doesn’t need a warranty

My mother gives her love freely

Her pure angel heart is something I really

Want to emulate one day

Dear I say

That she is my biggest inspiration

My greatest motivation

To live life to the fullest

To never have the dullest

Moment of your life

To never walk in strife

To always have joy

To never make a ploy

Because your life should reflect God

With everything she nods

To God’s perfect will for our lives

My mother always strives

To be selfless

Even when she is helpless

Her faith remains strong

She always has a joyful song

The world’s biggest encourager

She is never the discourager

She makes a room more livelier

Her zest for life is deeper

Yes, my mom is a keeper

No one works harder

Because for starters

Her motives to work are always pure

To create a better life for her

Daughters and Family

To be speak quite candidly

I have the world’s best mother

No there is no other

I don’t know what I would do

If I did not have you

You make the world a brighter place

There is no one else in this space called earth

That could ever replace who you are for me

This Mother’s Day and Always

No that you are loved beyond compare

Without you my life would be in despair

Please know that you are appreciated

And know that I have concentrated

My entire life to make you proud

I love you sweet mother

 

Healthy Versions of Your Favorite Nigerian Meals

Hey guys,

I hope all is well. Summer is pretty much here. That means, time to get that body extra snatched than ever.  The problem with that, is that I love food. I am a self-proclaimed foodie. I especially love being Nigerian and eating all the foods my culture has to offer. However, sometimes the hearty Nigerian food can be very high in calories. Don’t fret! I have some tips on making healthier, lower calorie version of your favorite Nigerian dishes.

  1.  Green Plantain Pounded Yam

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This meal is for anyone that wants to eat a “swallow” (pounded yam, eba, iyan) without gaining weight.

You take 1 green plaintain and cut it up. Put it in the blender. Then, add about a cup or a handful of oatmeal (flavorless) and put it in the blender. Add some water and blend.  The mixture will be liquidized. Take the mixture and microwave it for 3 minutes. Add a little water and stir. Then microwave it for another 1-2 minutes. The consistency should look like the picture above.

Pair this “pounded yam” with kale (efo) to make it even healthier than regular spinach.

2.   Sweet Potato Asaro (Yam Porridge)

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Yams are delicious. However, they can be slightly fattening. If you are craving yam porridge, substitute the yams with sweet potatoes.  Sweet potatoes have less calories and are more nutrient dense.

Peel the sweet potatoes and chop them into pieces. Let it boil for some time.  Blend fresh tomatoes, habenero peppers, and onions.  Add the mixture to your boiling potatoes. If you like, add some tomato paste and tomato sauce. Season with your choice of Maggi, Adobo seasoning, Cayenne, and Caribbean seasoning. When the yams are soft, mash them together.

3.  Brown Rice Jollof with boli (roasted plantain)

Make your regular jollof rice recipe, but use brown rice instead. Also, roast or bake your plantains instead of frying them. They taste just as good.

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Well, that’s all I have for today. If you are interested in more healthy food options, let me know in the comments or the contact section. I hope you enjoy.

Stay Healthy,

Abisola

How To Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin: Natural Hair, No Makeup

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Hey guys! So for this post. This is one of the few times that you have seen me with no makeup and with my natural hair.  This month of May, I am trying to leave my natural hair out the entire month. 90% of the time, I always have protective styles on my head. That means, I keep my natural hair covered with weaves or braids. However, it is important for your hair to breath and be treated underneath it all. The no makeup thing is not for the entire month.  Nonetheless, I want to minimize the amount of times I wear makeup just to let my skin breath. Truly being au naturale with no makeup and natural hair is so liberating. It took me a while to be comfortable with my natural hair.  So if you are struggling with being comfortable with your natural hair, body, skin or whatever, here are some tips to help you appreciate the real you.

1.POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

I am a firm believer of speaking what you want into existence. Thus, if you tell yourself you are beautiful, then you will believe you are beautiful and your beauty will shine.  Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. You might feel silly telling yourself positive things about yourself. But it will help you to believe in yourself when you do.

2.  TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL BODY

You get what you put in. While you should love your body and skin no matter what state it’s in, taking care of it will help you to appreciate it more.  Working out, eating healthy, and finding a perfect skin care regimen helps with your confidence. Take time for self care and eliminate the stressors in your life.

3.  FIND A GO-TO HAIR STYLE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL FLY

For all my naturalista sisters, there are so many natural hairstyles to choose from. Plus,  there are countless YouTube tutorials.  Once you find that one or two styles that make you feel bomb, stick with them. It helps to make you feel more comfortable rocking your hair when you have a go-to that is always a banger.

4. TAKE PICTURES OF YOURSELF WITHOUT MAKEUP

Sometimes when you look in the mirror, you think of yourself as being worse than you are. If you take a picture, with good lighting of course, you will see that your flaws are more trivial than you make them to be.  Seeing recurring images of your makeup free self, helps you to get used to that aesthetic.  The same thing for natural hair.

5. CONNECT WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SIDE

When you really get in touch with who you are in Christ,  your confidence grows. Not just in your outward appearance, but in your characteristics.  Remember that you are all fearfully and wonderfully made. God did not make any mistakes on you.

Here are some confidence building songs to listen to.

  1. India Arie- “Private Pary”
  2.  Colbie Caillat-” Try”
  3. India Arie- “Video”
  4. India Arie- “I am Not My Hair”
  5.  Christina Aguilera- “Beautiful”
  6.  Esperanza Spalding- “Black Gold”

I hope you enjoyed this post.

 

Stay Beautiful,

Abisola

 

Spring 2018 Semester Reflection

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Hey guys! How’s it going? My second year of college is officially over! I am thrilled. College is going by so fast and I can’t even keep up. This semester was filled with lots of ups and downs. But overall it has been one of the most fruitful. Let’s reflect on some of the good, and some of the bad.

THE NOT SO GOOD

This semester I took a fourth level Spanish class.  Spanish is my minor and for most of my life Spanish came easy to me. However, this semester’s Spanish class challenged me like never before. I was astounded that I even came out without any burns. (I know it sounds like an exaggeration, but sis, it was tough) The reason that it was so challenging was because 90% of the class was filled with native speakers. They spoke at such a fast pace that it was difficult to understand. Plus, my teacher was a Spaniard and his accent was difficult to decipher as well. Often times I would just pick out key words and phrases to make it through the class. Continually, because it was a speaking class,  we would have debates in Spanish. I barely like to debate in English. We would never know the topic beforehand and we never knew when we would get picked to debate. Also, we had to do 15 hours of community service in Spanish. Ultimately, this class was doing the most.

Another not so pleasant part of the semester was my International Media class. Although the content was interesting, there was so much material. Also, the tests were not fully representative of the material in the modules. It was so grueling studying for that class.

THE GOOD

I had a radio internship this semester. If you haven’t already checked out my radio internship reflection, please do so. This semester the class that I thought I would dread the most (because of the teacher)  turned out to be my favorite class. This semester I took Electronic Journalism 1. It’s basically a radio and television news writing class.  To God’s glory, I excelled in this class. I made some of the top grades and my teacher ended up really appreciating my work ethic and complimented me for it. It truly made me realize even more that journalism is my calling. I felt so much peace that reporting and anchoring is the perfect path for my future.

This semester, I also had a lot more free time. I was only taking 3 classes but with 13 credits, because my internship counted as a class.  I got to spend more time with my friends and really do more self care things.  There were only a handful of moments where I was genuinely stressed.  My grades were also a reflection of the amount of time I had to do my work.

This semester also went by very quickly. Before I knew it, I was done with classes.

I am grateful for the school year that I had. It was a solid 8/10. I can’t wait to see what year 3 brings for me.

I hope you enjoyed this post.

Stay Blessed,

Abisola XoXo