COMPARISON KILLS: Getting Over The Comparison Game

Blog Post Comparison Kills

Hey guys!

How are you? I hope all is well. I’m sorry for the lack of posts. I started school and whew chile…the homework.  By the way, I can officially share that this is my senior year of college.  By God’s grace I will be graduating a year early. But we’ll talk about that another time.

I wanted to talk about something that has been on my heart for a while. Jonathan McReynold’s has a song called “Comparison Kills”. I’ll leave the link to it.

Basically, it’s the idea that as human beings we compare our lives so much to others. That’s so easy to do in the age of social media where people are constantly sharing updates about themselves.  Seeing other’s highlight reels can make you think “Am I doing enough?” , “Am I enough?” “How come I’m not in her shoes?.” The list goes on.  This is all coming from personal experience. I am so guilty of comparing myself to others and feeling inadequate. This post is for me just as much as it is for you.

Here are some ways to find peace when you find yourself comparing yourself.

1.You Were Given Your Own Unique Destiny:

Jeremiah 29:11 talks about how God gave us a plan for good and not for evil.

God formed us in our mother’s womb and knew how our life would play out before we were even born.  As cliche as it sounds, every single person on this earth was born with a special purpose.  Why are you worried about someone else’s destiny, when you can be thinking of ways to fulfill your own?

No one’s destiny is greater than the other because each destiny is given FOR YOU and YOU ALONE.

When we compare ourselves, we undermine the value of our own unique purpose for our lives. If you admire someone’s destiny or purpose, find ways to incorporate some of the things they are doing in your own life. But, remember to stay true to who you are and never try to live someone else’s life.  Like they say, be yourself because everyone else is taken.

2.  Social Media Can Be a Deceiver

I’ve mentioned this before, but social media can really make you seem like people’s lives are better than its reality.  It is a highlight reel meaning that people generally only post the “highs” in their life. Rarely are people posting when they’re low, upset, frustrated, anxious.  Half the time the person’s life that you’re comparing, is in fact a facade. You don’t see the behind the scenes when they’re arguing with their spouses,  taking care of their sick family member or whatever issue they may have. Take social media posts with a grain of salt. I’ve had to do this in my professional career. I see people posting more things about their professional endeavors,  getting awards, doing x,y,z and I sometimes start to doubt myself. Why am I not doing enough? How do they get to that position?

Sometimes seeing things on social media can be motivational.  Professionally, it motivates me to want to do more in my journalism career. However, I have to be careful not to fall into the pit of self-pity and feelings of inadequacy.

3.  You are not in competition with anyone

I’ve also had to remind myself of this one constantly.  My industry of television news and reporting is extremely competitive. But I had to realize that I’m not in a competition with anyone but myself. What’s for me will be for me.  If I don’t get an opportunity, that’s because I wasn’t supposed to get it.  When you realize that your work colleagues, classmates, friends, family members, etc are not your competition, you will find peace. Be in a competition with yourself. Always try to do your personal best. Don’t discredit your personal best because you don’t feel like it’s up to par because of others. There’s no winning team in the game of life. There’s enough room in this life for everyone to succeed.

That’s all I have for you all today. If you enjoyed this or were inspired by this, please let me know in the comments or contact section.

Stay Blessed,